Well where do i begin?About a month ago during spring break,i visted my parents.I’m 18 and attendin college so i figured itd be one of the only times i would have to spend with them.Anyways,i got home and after a few days i started feeling tired and feeling weird i knew i was pregnant i just knew, but i brushed it off justtelling myself it was nothing and that i just hadnt been getting enough rest.But later that week when i returned to school i knew something was wrong because my period hadn’t come and im not irregular ,it was almost always exactly every 28 days so at that moment i knew for sure i was pregnant. plus i was feeling extremely tired and nauseous.Every smell made me wanna throw up and i was barely eating except when i forced myself.I felt so sick to the point i couldnt even attend class..I took the test and sure enough i was pregnant .I calculated that i was already 5 weeks.I saved the test to show my then boyfriend at the time and he wasnt really shocked despite the fact of me telling him of the possibility when i was visiting at home and him not believing me then.He wanted to keep it.I knew for certain that i didn’t.For one,he was irresponsible and two,he was abusive.We had been having a lot of problems at that time.I told him i was going to get an abortion.He of course wasn’t pleased,but he couldn’t change my mind.I was only 18 and it was my first year in college, neither of us had the money.It was the right decision for me.So after i told him,i called my parents and told them and to my surprise they were very supportive.They paid for it with the help of the NAF.I had some family where i was attending college,but i rarely even saw them so i couldnt depend on them to be there when i decided to go to the clinic.so i asked my bf to come and he agreed even though he didn’t really approve.I was happy about that because i just didn’t wanna be alone.But either way i had my parents if he hadn’t followed through.NAF helped me find a place and i set the appointment.I decided to get a suction or surgical abortion.I had 2 appointments.By the time of the procedure i was 6-7weeks.I was a little nervous,but i was ready and i wasn’t turning back.My bf was very distant when we went to the clinic so it was basically as if i was there by myself,but im very strong so i coped.The day of the procedure.i came in a little before my scheduled time.and its was about 15 mins later that they called me in.I took all the meds except the sedation.My main reason was that i didn’t wanna feel loopey or anything i had seen girls like that.so it was the best choice FOR ME.Im not saying everyone should do it,but thats what i chose and it worked out in my case.it didnt hurt.just a lot of pressure.i was fine.and it only lasted a few minutes.i went into the recovery room to be monitored for a little while and to take antibiotics and then i was off on my way.they had also given me pain pills but i experienced very little pain and bleeding.overall i don’t regret my decision.i know i am forgiven for what ive done and it was the right choice for me.Im not ashamed…
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m glad to hear that you had your parent’s support! You can read my personal story here. Stay strong and don’t let people shame you.
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Remembering the Birmingham Abortion Clinic Bombing
On January 29, 1998, the New Women All Women abortion clinic in Birmingham, Alabama was bombed by domestic terrorist Eric Rudolph.
Off-duty police officer Robert “Sande” Sanderson was killed in the attack, leaving behind a wife and child. After the bombings, anti-choice activists located Sanderson’s home, and attacked it with bricks and sticks. In what is perhaps the greatest irony, Sande’s widow, Felicia, has stated that both she and her husband opposed abortion - Sande was a replacement guard who was just filling in for a colleague.
Clinic nurse and counselor Emily Lyons was badly injured in the attack, suffering burns over most of her body and countless shrapnel wounds. To date, she has had to endure almost three dozen surgeries to do everything from sew her eyelids back on to remove nails from her knees.
Here are some pictures from her website that show just how severe her injuries were. (Note: Link is safe, though please use extreme caution when viewing the linked pictures, as they are extremely graphic.)
Please take a moment today to remember all those who have been affected by clinic violence, and to honor all of those who work to ensure that abortion remains safe, legal and accessible to all who may need or want it.
Pregnancy emancipates you medically, if as a minor you can decide without waiting periods and parental permission to stay pregnant and have a baby then the flip side of that coin would be as a medical emancipated minor you would have the right to decide for yourself that you need to termination said pregnancy without parental permission or enduring a waiting period.
The BEST argument against parental consent laws.
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When Abortion Was Illegal: Untold Stories illuminates a largely undocumented era, from the end of the 19th century through the Roe v. Wade Supreme Court decision in 1973.
This Academy Award-nominated film features compelling first person accounts, which reveal the physical, legal, and emotional consequences during the era when abortion was a criminal act. Until recently, the era of illegal abortion had been a “sealed chapter” in U.S. women’s history.
The aura of shame surrounding unwanted pregnancies and abortion before Roe v. Wade kept most women from ever admitting that they had had illegal abortions - an experience which many had faced, but about which few ever spoke.
Women suffering complications from back alley or self-induced abortions avoided admitting what they had done. As a result, many women died from untreated infections while some hemorrhaged to death. Candid interviews reveal the tragedies, as well as the courage and heroism of a shrouded time. This poignant oral history weaves together the untold stories of these women with the work of individuals who risked arrest in order to help them.
Banning doesn’t make it go away
Much like in Ireland, in the Philippines, abortion is illegal.
But it doesn’t mean abortion doesn’t happen. It only means it happens even more. According to US-based reproductive health research organization, Guttmacher Institute, in 2008, there were over 500,000 cases of abortion in the Philippines every year and about 1,000 deaths due to abortion-related complications.
Maternal deaths — which is highly preventable — account for about 12%-14% of all women’s deaths in the country.
I once interviewed a community woman from Malabon who underwent an abortion. She said she didn’t feel guilty about what she did. It was, in a way, an act of mercy.
(Read more of the story of this woman and other women who have undergone abortions in the Philippines here.)
In the vernacular, she told me, “I would have felt more guilty having to go through each day with nothing to feed this child.”
She, like many other women, resorted to buying Cytotec to induce abortion. She suffered intense bleeding and was brought to the hospital.
She told me how she was humiliated by the doctor who checked her condition. “Nagpalaglag ka kaya ka nagkaganyan,” she was told. (You tried to have an abortion. That’s why that happened to you.)
The doctor treated her (others outright refused) but did not call her by her name, referring to her only as “Ms Abortionist.”
I asked her if this made her angry. “Nanliit na po ako.” (It made me feel small.)
I asked her if she complained or showed her anger. “Hindi po. Kayo po, siguro pwede magalit. Ako…”(No, I didn’t complain. You can complain, but I cannot…”)
Her voice trailed off and she did not complete her sentence.
Medically accepted reasons for abortion
There are medically accepted reasons, or exceptions, for an abortion to save a woman’s life. Examples when therapeutic abortion may be justified:
1. ectopic pregnancy
2. use of chemotherapy
3. fetal impairment, e.g. anencephaly
4. eclampsia or malignant hypertension
5. molar pregnancy
But under the law (Revised Penal Code of 1930), doctors in the Philippines may still not perform abortion in the above cases. They run the risk of losing their medical licenses. Women who undergo abortion are also subject to imprisonment.
This law is a direct translation of the Spanish Penal Code of 1870 and has not been changed since pre-colonial times.
Lawmakers are moving to extend this period of imprisonment even further under House Bill 3667.
It is a punitive approach to the problem; one that evokes punishment rather than prevention.
The current situation and the blatant disregard for women’s sexual health rights is entrapment. With no access to information about reproductive health, no means to purchase services, women are backed up against the wall, left with no options and only mouths to feed.
Sometimes their decisions, made out of desperation, cost them their life.
But why are there no indignation rallies for these women?